Dear Zita,

As a 22 year old, i can identify with this question – my identity crises took off on full throttle since i was 19. I have the following insights to offer –

We are forever a work-in-progress – really beautiful but evolving creatures.

I used to keep wondering about “Who am I?” “What is the meaning of life?” “Why am i here?” kind of questions. The first one i remember thinking was when i was a kid. The question was “Whats the point of living if my parents die? I will be all alone” – I remember asking this to a teacher and she was alarmed that i was depressed or something but i wasnt. Still, that nagging question did remain at the back of my mind for years. Then came the “Why am i here? Who am I?” questions.

So there questions do arise at some point. What i have learnt after a great deal of turmoil, depression and certain unpleasant instances is that –

1) Learn to appreciate life instead of questioning and nit-picking it every second – we must really be present in the moment to feel alive and mesmerized.

2) Truly fall in love with life and ourselves – Love is unconditional, isnt it? You will never entirely know what you’re truly capable of. You might never really know “who you are” – maybe you’ll have an idea but the entire picture cant ever be estimated – do you know why? Because you are already changing as you proceed with life

Dont judge this person you are presently. She is so wonderful anyway. However, sometimes you will feel you need to change some things consciously about yourself – in those times, change takes a great deal of love to last- when we love ourselves enough to change in a positive way, it will happen.

At this moment, I am someone who wants to see what i can really do – get rid of these fears, be more involved in my community, experience different things, learn to stop judging others that much. That doesnt mean that i am already not awesome anyway 😛 I believe i am 🙂 Maybe i will make mistakes and things will go wrong beyond my control – Life is unpredictable…Whatever it is, the most important thing is that i know i will be okay eventually – i will pick up the pieces and go on.

You need to believe in how wonderful and strong you are as well – love this person without any conditions, trust yourself. Everyday, focus on how you’ve improved compared to yesterday.

If you truly trust yourself, you’ll already know that you have the capability to deal with your mistakes and when you love unconditionally, it wont even hurt that much.

Forgot who you are at this moment – just live this moment without judgement and understand what really makes your heart feel like singing. Zita, lastly, as twenty-somethings, this is our chance to explore, know our capabilities better, make more mistakes while trying to learn and loving ourselves despite these mistakes 🙂

– Moon <3 <3