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Please understand that there are different ways to view thoughts and feelings. Amongst many others, there is the “you think things for a reason, let’s figure out why” psychoanalysis. There is “you need to stop thinking dysfunctional thoughts, change them to positive happier thoughts” version of cognitive behavioral therapy (which is currently the most common version). Or there is newer mindfulness based therapies like acceptance commitment therapy who view thoughts as “neither good or bad, they’re just thoughts”, which is very Buddhist. The mindfulness based ones talk about compassion for whatever thoughts you have, but that actions are the things that matter, not thoughts or feelings
Whatever you decide that you identify with the most, know you are OK as you are.