Hi Michael Smith

I am going to be really harsh with you today as I feel compassion and supportive posts work the best when you have no clue as to what happened. You know exactly what has happened. You are way more sensible than what you keep telling yourself.

“tell myself that…. good things will happen to me soon”. Don’t you think good things have already started happening to you – you have saved yourself from a much bigger trouble in the future by having this relationship cut short. Can you imagine what would have happened if you had married her or had a child with her and then she left you or perhaps, she started cheating on you while you were still together ? Do you deserve this ?

Going to bed sad doesn’t equal positivity in the morning. Please get this very clear in your head. Going to bed sad = more miseries the next day whether you like it or not. You need to go to bed happy and with positive or uplifting thoughts. Perhaps, listen to some positive lectures from various spiritual leaders or non-spiritual leaders. Give your subconscious mind something useful to do while you rest your body overnight. Or another option is to do a short meditation. I have posted few links before on other posts. Matt recommends Sharon Salzburgs Metta Meditation. Hey, break the cycle, mate as no one else is gonna come and do it for you !!!

“I feel used and lied to” – Seriously ? Do you really think someone can make us feel broken without our permission. What you need to figure out is this – what is my gain or underlying agenda in all of this self-pity ? What is missing that I am not able to understand about myself ? What is the lesson that I need to learn from this relationship so that my next relationship will be better ?

Yes, please can be cold even after wonderful times. This is the beauty of human psyche. When it is not our issue or our emotional investment at stake, it is so much easier to walk away as if nothing happened. However, in your case, you feel let down and unsure of why this happened when you were having wonderful moments. Hey, people do what they do. People are not intentionally trying to hurt everyone in their lives. They do this out of ignorance or arrogance as they don’t know any better. But YOU do ! You are a kind soul and be that way. Stop bringing negativity in your life with this persistent self pity. You are not doing anyone any favours. People who needed to move on have done so and probably don’t even know your plight. They do not have the capacity to understand your pain so why are you wasting your energy on such people ?

BE KIND TO YOURSELF FOR MICHAEL’s SAKE. Don’t ruin your days as they are not coming back and what we do today (in terms of thoughts, actions and feelings) is painting our future. Choice is in your hands. Do you want a sad tomo or do you want a positive move forward tomo. Shit happens but we learn and move on to better pastures.

Last post from me to you as I know you will be fine now 🙂

Blessings,

J