Hi Josh,

I can tell by your write up that you are upset all the time. It’s good to seek help.

I’m sorry to hear about you mom. My mom also died of cancer.

Your thoughts and feelings – I relate a lot of what you described to a relationship that I had. It prompted me to see a a psychologist. I had to take care of myself and he definitely helped me. I had tried a couple counselors before.

Have you tried this or would you be open to this? They could help you with your temper and why you’re in this type of relationship.

You might also try couples counseling. When we tried that, the counselor identified fundamental issues with her that prevented successful counseling.

It’s an opportunity to learn about yourself Josh. One of the most profound statements that I have read here I think was written by Matt. It was how a difficult relationship or difficult person actually serves as a teacher for you. I can’t think of anything more impactful than that. What I’ve come to find is that everyone does the best they can each day. Sometimes they have an illness, or another challenge that makes their day more of a struggle. This is integral to our lives, we all have it to some degree from time to time. A key learning opportunity is to understand how compassion helps with the relationship we have with ourselves and the relationships that we have with others.

Think about these points and let me know if this makes sense and resonates with you. I hope this helps.

Big blue

• This reply was modified 10 years, 6 months ago by Big blue.
• This reply was modified 10 years, 6 months ago by Big blue.