You know, the one thing that came to me was this word: TRANSFERENCE.

I had something similar. Problems with non-involved father. Years later I think of this other man as my father. He was quietly let go due to a scandal (not related to me LOL) and moved. I swear, I grieved for this “dad” like no other. Then I felt Weird because:

1. He wasn’t my real father
2. Women over a certain age don’t need fathers
3. He wasn’t that great, even as a person (as it turns out)
4. Why am I crying???

I realized:

1. I was really grieving for my own father
2. My grandfather WAS my “real” father. So it’s not like I didn’t grow up without parenting.
3. WHY AM I CASTING THESE OTHER PEOPLE IN THIS ROLE?

Tiny Zebra, is it possible that you are still grieving your divorce? Why this person?

And, my mother would say, “A busy woman is a happy woman”.

How did you recover (if you have) from the divorce?

Just thoughts!!!