Hello there – of course you’re not a fool. You are a trusting person and thought you had found some happiness. It sounds like he has been lying to you and his wife, doesn’t it. This must hurt you very much and it’s probably no consolation but I generally find people do such things to help themselves & not to hurt others. I’m sure he thought as much of you as you think of him but living a lie usually ends in heartbreak & I expect he doesn’t know what he’s doing. Unfortunately you have been badly stung here & left with so many questions along with a gap in your life. I doubt anything anyone says will help – only time will heal (another cliche but a true one). DOn’t be afraid that you won’t feel close to anyone else – try to trust in your ability to heal & get stronger.

Lucy