Hi Elle,

I’m sorry to hear all that you have endured. Lucyb’s response is right – despite your struggles, you have life. And, I highly recommend you read that book.

Elle, if it’s ok I will give a guy’s perspective. I was in a committed relationship, but after much MUCH open discussion about how her bitterness of her past relationships were spoiling our relationship, I had to break it off. I would say to her that she was creating another bad relationship when in reality I was demonstrating and pushing for a good one. So, the question is, what happens if you meet someone otherwise worthy for you, but you bring these old wounds into it?

Elle, what if this bitterness affects other relationships? What if it spreads like oil over water?

This is motivation to work hard at re-inventing yourself. Please take this very seriously because you can turn yourself around, starting now. It’s in your power, and if you find that you need help, you can reach out and get help.

Lucyb I’m sorry to hear about your cancer – congratulations for recovering so well, and for helping others.

Big blue

• This reply was modified 10 years, 6 months ago by Big blue.
• This reply was modified 10 years, 6 months ago by Big blue.