Thanks Virginia.

Hi Ben

I am sorry that you find yourself in such a state at 22. This is your time to fly high and enjoy your life but hey, some times, life throws a curve ball at us to keep us grounded.

You are not a bad person nor are doing anything wrong. Like Virginia said, mom is an adult and the only person who can help her is HERSELF. You can offer her moral and emotional support (and perhaps financial support if you can afford it) but you cant bring her out of her situation unless she is willing to do it herself.

There is a very fine line between responsibility and obligation. Be there for her but without any obligations. If you start to feel guilty or start holding negative emotions, then guess what will happen ? No one will benefit. A non-swimmer cant save someone from drowning. Similarly, you need to be in the right space mentally, physically, emotionally and financially to help others out including parents / siblings.

Offer prayers for her and your sister so that they both get the strength to move forward in life and be there for them as much your schedule or positive emotions allow. Be there for them without expectations or guilt or any negativity.

May you get the strength to move forward in life yourself.

Blessings,

Jasmine