Dear Lissy

I read your response after posting above. Thank you also for taking the time and for your thoughtful advice.

I did consider leaving a letter in his belongings but for a long time previous to our split I had tried to express some of those feelings only for them to be abruptly dismissed & cut short. On the day of our split after another emotionally controlling “argument” (I never knew how to label them as I always thought arguments involved 2 people talking) I decided to communicate some of the feelings above in a text. He responded in such a way with name calling and nasty accusaton, that it sounded like he had read something entirely different.
That is why I decided against the note. I was too afraid of being hurt I did not feel strong enough to risk a negative reaction.

I took the safer risk of putting it out in the ether and it has transpired as a good decision.

Thank you for your compassion, but I don’t think you need to be sad for that missed opportunity. As you can see I have been blessed with kindness and yes I feel some peace in my heart and am breathing easier.

Thank you for your affirmation. At the moment it does feel like I have done the right thing.

With best wishes
Sue