Hi Dermot,

I felt like I had to reply to your post.
Don’t let this disorder define you; in fact, step away from the word ‘disorder’. It sounds like you are an intelligent guy with a lot to give and you have acknowledged that your current way of thinking and living is not helping you. This is the first step.

The second step is committing to change. I am experiencing my own difficulties at present and this is the step I’m struggling with.

Don’t let your age stop you either. I didn’t have sex until a month or do before my 21st birthday; don’t let your age or your ideas about age define you. What has gone before does not have to dictate the present or the future.

I think you could try and look into cognitive behavioural therapy which helps you to change your ideas about things.

I really feel for you and please know that you are not alone.

Best wishes x