Hi Zita,

The reason you are having a hard time shifting your focus is because this current issue is unresolved. You stated that “I know it is not my job to tell people where and how they went wrong,” but in this case it is your job. When someone hurts you, either physically or emotionally, it is your duty to let them know what they have done.

Telling them is not only so the other person can hopefully learn, but to help with the healing process for you. If you don’t want to tell him in person/over the phone, write a letter. You don’t even have to mail it, but this will help you give a voice to your pain and suffering, which will also help you let go and come to peace with it. The uncontrollable sobbing is your bodies way of voicing that hurt.

Give it a voice, let it tell you what’s really going on. It may be deeper than you realize. And once you do this, you will have an easier time focusing on you.