Lady, you have to stop making all the effort. If there’s anything I wish I had done differently in the past, this is it. If he wants to see you, let HIM make the drive. If he wants to talk, let HIM make the calls/texts. If you don’t hear from him, it wasn’t meant to be.

Oh, all the broken hearts I could have avoided over the years if only I hadn’t pursued.

Also, there is a book. Why Men Love Bitches. Yeah, I rolled my eyes at the title, too, but it was given to me by a forward-thinking, feminist friend who I trust. Such good advice! All about focusing on yourself, making yourself happy, and not kowtowing to men. She read it after a bad breakup, applied the advice in her life and has now been with her current boyfriend (who dotes on her like crazy) for five years and just had a baby boy.