Vic,

Ah, yes. Sorry, I tend to start rambling and I often go through my own thinking process whilst still writing to someone else, and forget that perhaps I’m not being very clear 🙂 It was just some thoughts I had around the subject, and not necessarily related to your situation. What I thought was that often things aren’t quite what they seem at first, and we want to believe in one truth because it’s less painful or easier to accept than something else. As an example, when someone doesn’t know how to behave in a certain situation, they resort to being blunt and when the other person becomes offended, they blame it on being just too damn honest. That wasn’t the real reason though, but the lack of tact and empathy towards the other person.

You kind of remind me of this one man I had a huge crush on 🙂 Still kind of do, actually, even though it’s become clear that we aren’t going to be a couple, ever. He is very direct and that is actually one of the things I like about him. I know where he stands with issues and it’s nice to be able to talk about things without having to beat around the bush. However, it is impossible to connect with him emotionally. It is as if he has this shell around him to protect him. He is bold and direct when discussing the world affairs or even relationships, but the moment he is approached in a way that he would have to let down his guard and allow another person close, he just tenses up. His problem is not that he is too honest, though I’m sure that he gets into trouble with his un-PC attitude. His problem is that he shuts out other people who want to get close to him. I would bet a lot of money that he does not see the actual truth to why he is single.

Aww…now I miss him. He is such an adorable turtle 🙂