SpinBunny,

Its normal and fairly usual to fall for a kindred, there’s a click that becomes very alluring. Add to that him being a cheerleader for your development, and what’s not to love? Consider that the feelings are easy, now, safely sprouting in the world of fantasy. If he was your boyfriend, it’d be a lot different. He’s full of blood and puss and poop too, not just a “mystery man”. The relationship would be the same, tricky, real, hard work.

Said differently, if only conditions were different… but they aren’t. Infatuation erodes when we rest with the reality of what is, instead of bounce along the fantasies of what might be if only. Might be time for a different trainer. Or go after him. Unrequited love is tough enough, without mixing in the teacher/student aspect of your connection.

With warmth,
Matt