Dear SpinBunny,

You are welcome. No need to despair, and no rush in making any decisions 🙂 From what I see, you are exactly on the right path, mindful, open, considerate and learning about yourself, emotions, people.

Something else came to heart … he is a personal trainer and part of his job is to be kind and friendly with everyone. It is possible there are slight reciprocated feelings but at the same time it is possible they are only perceived. This is normal, usual, lovable. Attraction is normal between people, especially when they have been in a close relationship for a prolonged period of time. The trick is, and the heart of it all, to notice it, let is pass, and know when it is skillful to act on it and when it is not skillful to act on it. That is the practice, and perhaps part of the lesson in this scenario. As we learn to observe our own emotions/thoughts we become more attuned to such subtleties. Then, we can enjoy the relationship in a healthy way. Say to ourselves “yes I find this person attractive but the relationship will remain strictly platonic.” And you enjoy the gym, something that gives you comfort, nourishment… what I see is that you already trust yourself to remain platonic 🙂 Now, it is just a matter of strengthening that view and yes, finding peace within.

One day, you will look back to all this and laugh, there is always a path to joy, and you are already on it, dear sister 🙂

With much warmth,
Helen