This was such an articulate and insightful post, Blaice. I feel my situation does not even compare to the ones I’ve been reading on here, and yet I somehow feel this type of pain that can amount to what it would feel like going through a break up after a 6 or 7 year relationship. I was seeing someone for about 3 or 4 months and I became infatuated with him in a short amount of time; he was my definition of a perfect guy..he was my type and everything. Add sex to the mix and I was already emotionally attached. I met him while I was going to school somewhere 2 1/2 hours away from my hometown but I just transferred out of there and will be taking some classes at a community college near home. Seeing each other now would take about a 3 hour trip and would make us a long distance relationship couple. We stopped talking for about a month when I came home for the summer but he got in contact with me again and said he wanted to see where things could lead us once more. He gave me all the signs that he seemed interested and cared about me and I even made a 3 hour trip this summer to see him for a few nights, and then a few days after I came home he insinuated that it wasn’t going to work out and we needed to be realistic about our situation.

I put so much effort into this person, with high hopes that we would work out and now we are back to being strangers again. And that hurts the worst knowing someone who became a routine or a part of your life is no longer there. I’ve been in a one year relationship where I was cheated on and even now I feel like the emotions I’m experiencing are more intense than when I found out I was cheated on. I feel I was led astray and used. I’ve been looking for answers and closure on to why this happened and why he couldn’t be clear and concise about his intentions even though he put on a facade and acted like he wanted something substantial. I can’t even imagine what it feels like having someone just let you go after a long term relationship. I care deeply for people so when someone lets me go just like that, I feel confused on how it’s so easy for them.

I hope whoever is going through a breakup right now can find a peaceful way to move on and learn to let go. The healing process is probably the hardest part, but I know it gets better eventually. A good support system and time are your only friends in this case.