“I am pally with a few guys at the gym and after christmas earlier this year one of them came up to me and asked for a New Years kiss. Nothing pervy at all. He’s married and just a sweet guy and gave me a peck on the cheek to say happy new year. After he did it he looked straight at my trainer as if to see his reaction. They are both very pally with each other.”

Call me a prude, but I don’t think there’s anything “sweet” about a married guy asking women at the gym for a kiss. I would be appalled if I knew my husband was carrying on like that. And then for him to look at your trainer for a reaction? Sounds like a lot of immaturity going around and poor boundaries on everybody’s part.

SpinBunny, you are a beautiful, loving soul worthy of your own admiration and devotion. Don’t look outside yourself for validation and attention.