Oh dear. I feel like I’m not putting things across in this thread very well at all. Kelly I appreciate your comments but you’ve got the wrong end of the stick. Not your fault, my poor explanations I’m sure. The guy at the gym is not some random guy. I used to work with him and we are friendly in a strictly platonic way. He gave me a light peck on the cheek to say happy new year. There is really nothing seedy or distasteful about it. I don’t know why he looked at my trainer after. Maybe I imagined it.

I certainly don’t look outside of myself for validation and attention either. I have never been that person and I never will. I have been single for a long time purely because I don’t do that. I prefer to be single than be in a relationship just for the sake of it or for as you say “validation”.

I did come on here for some advice but things are now getting taken in the wrong way and I feel it’s because I’m not explaining myself very well so I will leave it here. I have an idea now of what I need to do so thank you all for your input.

Much Love