Spin, I’m sorry. It appears I offended you, which was not my intent. Don’t blame yourself for explaining it poorly. As I mentioned earlier, I tend to be conservative in my approach to relationships. I didn’t mean to imply there was anything “seedy” about the kiss, but I do believe that at times people have unclear boundaries. I prefer to avoid situations where there might be anything misleading or that could cause hurt feelings or mistrust if others (such as his wife) would witness it. Also, I appreciate that peoples’ definitions of “plutonic” vary and each unique relationship has a unique “feel” to it. I may be projecting somewhat, as I have had situations where I assumed plutonic relationships only to find out the guys were harboring romantic/lusty desires. Do your female friends ask for kisses at the gym, for instance? Would you find it strange if they did, or is it just another friendly kiss? Would you feel uncomfortable if this same friend asked for his kiss in front of his wife? Would she be unhappy? Just things to think about.

These are rhetorical questions. I certainly didn’t mean to scare you off from posting further and apologize if I’ve misconstrued anything. I’ve personally witnessed a lack of propriety in situations where I think people unknowingly set themselves up for trouble if they’re not sensitive to slippery slopes…. as for my comments about validation, again I am sorry because it appears to have rubbed you the wrong way. It just seems like there is a lot of attention at the gym regarding you, the trainer, people observing it, commenting on it, etc. as an underlying theme in your posts so I wondered if perhaps you found it all a bit exciting, for lack of a better word. Thank you for clarifying, and again I hope that you won’t stop posting simply because I didn’t understand.