Hello again Sarah,

Please let me reassure you – you are not a terrible person and your happiness is what is most important. I realize that sounds selfish, but it is more about self-love. For years I put everyone else’s happiness ahead of my own, only to end up feeling sad and unhappy. Sometimes too, as much as we would like to help, we are just not able to do so.

There is nothing wrong in understanding that we are all responsible for the way we feel. And hopefully your friend will eventually come to accept this, as well as benefit from the professional help she is getting. There is also nothing wrong with choosing to not spend as much time with your friend, because her negative energy is affecting your own energy.

I believe it really is okay to focus on yourself – to spend more time doing things you love and being with those whose energy is uplifting. I also think it is okay to feel you cannot be responsible for someone else’s happiness – you really can’t. Perhaps you can just decide to be comfortable with whatever you are able to offer your friend in terms of support and let the guilty feelings go?

Love and peace,

Marilyn