Ladybird,

Its very normal to be told what we “should” do and try. You know you, so its OK to shed the rest. “Not my scene, hope you had/have/will have fun though.” Not yours, unneeded. Your heart would say, you’d feel a call.

If you’re fearful that your intimacy isn’t satisfying to your partner, bring it up in a gentle, heartfelt space. Do you know if he’s satisfied? His is the only opinion that matters beside your own, and even then, if he wants things that feel icky to your heart… well its OK and healthy for some desires in the brain of a man to fall aside. We sometimes need a gentle slap from the goddess if we’ve been drooling. 🙂

Said differently, if a kid comes up to you while you’re building a sand castle, and says “you really must, right now, get up and go play on the swings, you’re missing out”, its one thing to be scared of the swings, stay away because you feel fear. Its quite another to say “no thanks, I’m busy building something beautiful.” Smiling, waving at the swingers, feeling no call to join them. Now, what could be used as a flag for the castle?

With warmth,
Matt