Kelly, can you not imagine having a crush on someone without feeling anything sexual, at first anyway? That’s what’s happened with me every time in my life when I had a crush on someone! And can you not imagine wanting to spend time with someone, look them in the eyes, hold them, talk, eat together, walk together etc – in other words: explore – without wanting to get in their pants? Do you see the difference between romantic infatuation and sexual lust? I now acknowledge for the fourth or fifth time in this thread, that indeed there is a conflict between should and want, or rather perhaps also mental confusion over what it is I want. And that I am making every effort to sort it out, including putting some distance between me and Liz. And that I really came here because I was looking for advice on how to deal with the mental confusion and suffering I am experiencing. Advice of the sort that Matt has been providing. I don’t need to be told numerous times that I need to sort my head out. I KNOW. THANK YOU, now please tell me how to do that (other than putting distance between Liz and me, advice which has already been given). Fortunately, in addition to Matt’s advice I have found some pretty good advice elsewhere. In a few days when the dust seems to be settling, I’ll post a summary of what seems to be working.