Hi Bronwyn,

Cool name!

I had a time when I was out of work and sleeping as much as possible once. At twice your age. I was really down and reached a very low point. What did I do? It was miserable. I accepted myself for where I was. That made me feel better. Kind of a relief. Took the pressure off. Then I got myself going. It took a while. Weeks, months. But with active job hunting I got a break, really prepared for the interview, nailed it, and got the job. Before that there were many interviews where I was not a good fit so I did not do well. Then I found a better job. And now a great job. During this time I did what Alpal advised – self help. My best advice is for you to hit the gym every day. You will soon feel better and it will help your confidence. Lift weights. You need to build muscle. This will transform you. Do cardio such as a Spin class – it’s fun and you will lose yourselk in it. That’s better for you than sleeping to lose yourself. But, take your own steps. There is no right or wrong. You are right as you are.

Volunteering is also a great action and experience as well – as Anonymous said. Find something, anything that you can do. Ideally pick something you care about. Lacking that pick something and try it.

Big blue

• This reply was modified 10 years, 4 months ago by Big blue.