Maureen,

I’m sorry for your suffering, and know how alone we can feel, how empty. When you say “I am unlovable”, I hear “I have difficulty loving” or “I am unable to feel love”. Being “unlovable” is total bullshit, or else the folks here at TB wouldn’t be able to love you. And we do. 🙂

I love Irene’s suggestion to put your hand on your heart and speak tenderly to yourself. The belief “I am unlovable” erodes quite wonderfully when we patiently, tenderly, take our heart in our hands and whisper sweet words of comfort and solace. After all, until you love yourself, until you open that wonderful heart of yours, show yourself how beautiful and caring you can be, how could you ever patiently help someone learn to love you properly, in the way you wish to be treated? How could you place your hand on their heart, patiently speaking whispers of tenderness to them in the way they wish to be treated?

*hugs* to you, sis, I wish you could see how beautiful you really are.

With warmth,
Matt