Kadija,

Yes, that’s great! Consider: if he wasn’t stuck in your brain, if you weren’t pouring your affection and attention in a toilet, wouldn’t you already be that shining woman you’re hoping to become?

Meaning, you don’t have to try to be something that you already are. Perhaps just overcome the fear that you aren’t, so you stop looking to others to see if you are. 🙂 There really is no mystery… you’re awesome, beautiful, as is, always have been… perhaps just a little too scared to accept it? Flap those wings, sister, the sky is waiting!

With warmth,
Matt