Sassy,

Focusing on ourselves isn’t about a career, its about the feeling of buoyancy we have just being ourselves, with ourselves. Not that we don’t want a partner, that’s normal, fine, usual to want to share our life with a partner. But when we don’t need a partner to feel stable, content, we don’t try to sacrifice our happiness to keep the relationship together.

Said differently, one ex wants this, one ex wants that, roommates want this, but what does Sassy want? When we take the time to self nurture, care for ourselves, find our happy place, etc, we don’t get sucked into what everyone else wants, and can more easily navigate our own path. We don’t get as wrapped up into what others think, don’t feel like we have to hide, and so forth. Instead, we become happy, strong, able to create boundaries and enforce them. Someone says you should do this or that? “Thanks for the info” and choose whatever feels right. Someone thinks you’re this or that? Their issue, not yours. Etc. 🙂

Also, though, if you’ve just broken up with your boyfriend, figuring out what to do next will perhaps be a bit muddled. Consider, perhaps more hugs, less cartography. More patience, less “what the heck!?!”. 🙂 It helps a lot when we give ourselves time to catch our breath, find our center again, cry out the old, and so on. Consider catching up on some hobbies, bathtub time, or going places and doing things that are all Sassy.

There’s a lot more to Sassy than career and husband. Ya know?

With warmth,
Matt