Hi Lori,
You asked for advice on your unique situation, and the folks above have weighed in with their opinions, so I’ll start with a quick copy/paste of your own words:
“It made me extremely uncomfortable but I kept to myself about it, knowing the conversation wouldn’t end well if I told him that I disliked it.”
Starting now not tomorrow you need to put yourself up as #1 in your life. This means being honest to yourself and comfortable being you. No one else can do this for you and no one else can enjoy your life like you can. Make sense?
You’re now looking at the prospect of sharing living expenses and doing housework, but you can’t be with him 24/7 to force monogamy on him. If you are not comfortable with his view of the relationship, get out now before you are locked in for years of codependence trying to be his #1 and only. You can be your #1 and still not be lonely if you are true to yourself – things will work out for you and you’ll meet a guy who will work for you.
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