Aiman,

The simple answer, memories of pain create fear, and fear turns you inward, away from kindness for self AND other. Such as, fear that path A doesn’t hold the key to your happiness, making you hope that path B doesn’t have the keys to her happiness.

Sometimes we think we don’t have strength, but its not that. Its when we are still building our courage, fear paralyzes us. As courage grows, so do conscious choices, less fear turning into barriers. Such as turning away from envy, resentment, so you can make the best of path A. The secret is, you’re beautiful on A or B, and both can inspire happiness. Said differently, contentment, happiness, is produced as we accept where we are, and dance… rather than the specific song/career/partner/bus we happen to be dancing with.

Also, “not choosing” is an illusion, its still a choice. 🙂

With warmth,
Matt