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No, it’s not unusual to still yearn for an old love years later. I think sometimes the lengthy mourning period stems from a person’s inability to accept the reality of how the relationship is at the present time, in this case, over (in the physical, being together sense.) I have no doubt that you will continue to spiritually be in relationship with her even though you are apart, due to mutual energetic attachments fueled by deep emotion.
There is a lesson in this for you to learn which is probably more about your issues stemming from you family of birth, and not from the two of you. You most likely (or most certainly) attracted this relationship precisely for the purpose of teaching you this lesson. These kinds of lessons are always a good thing…they do not come to you unless there is something you can do about it..i.e., you have the power within you to make the changes needed to release these issues, granting you the freedom for even greater love.
It’s so true, the best cure for an old love is a new love. If you could maybe start to become a little more positive, you might speed this process along. Have heart and look on all you have…which is so much! Hey! You’ve got FRIENDS! even if they are in LTRs! and focus on all you want to have! When you find yourself thinking about the past, just stop yourself, take a deep breath, notice your surroundings and be in the here and now and say thank you. Then think about something that makes you happy. In this way, you’ll magnetize and attract into your life all the good things you desire.
You’re 40! That’s a good thing! I’ve always thought 40 was an amazing and attractive age for humans of every gender, but often, especially for men, since quite a few of them take a while to ripen.
By the way, you can break your energetic structures to someone (invisible strings) without without breaking your spiritual (loving) connections, so don’t fear…it is only the pain that goes away, not your sweet memories of that person.
If you want to learn more about cutting energy cords of attachment, look up the books of Rose Rosetree.
All the best to you!