Thank you, and I know a lot of what you say is probably true and I think a bit of us breaking up was about me doing things for myself, becoming more confident and more secure in myself, without being dependent on anyone else. But it seems to have had the opposite effect: Ive become more insecure and even more self conscious than ever before and I feel tense and anxious more often now. I used to be very laid back and easy going but now I worry about where my life is going and what everyone thinks of me. I tend to feel a bit trapped in relationships but now I just feel lost