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Howard, don’t mention it. And the current pain im in now is because that relationship just ended a week ago (yes we got back together last year, and it didn’t work again). This happened for several reasons but the main one I will tell you now is because I didnt learn from my mistakes from the first break up hahaha. All is good though, I take this as a message that I have things to work on that I’d never realize unless this relationship ended.
Sooo…. to you my friend, don’t make the same mistakes again like I did, when you get your mojo back, never forget it and never forget that you believe in yourself. The moment you forget and go back to the old ways is the moment you lose again. But you won’t do that.
I understand that you hope she can be happy and well and all, that is an extremely noble quality that you have and that comes from true love. I say extremely because it is all to common to feel anger and scorn after a break up, but that is not like you so that is awesome.
On the other hand, and again, you got this. Its good to feel the emotion you have right now, its healthy to cry it out, its cleansing in a way. Don’t concern yourself over her, for how can you care for another if you cannot care for yourself to the fullest? Once you are at peace with yourself and have complete faith in yourself, you will be ready to love another again.
No need to be sorry about using that word, you have faith that she will be alright, now have faith that you will be too 🙂
Some things happen for a reason, I try not to attribute much “fault” to myself in that it makes me think that an outcome could have been avoided. If we had hindsight then this would be okay to feel, but we don’t.
So keep looking forward and there are great things out there waiting to happen to you. But there’s a catch, they will only happen if you believe that they will and expect them all the same because you know that you are awesome and worthy of happiness.
- This reply was modified 10 years, 3 months ago by SIngh.