You need a mission in life that you can do today. Wanting to join the military is a noble, inspired, and not wrong idea. Why don’t you give yourself a year to get in shape and drop the weight, come back and surprise them? Or join the Navy that may not have such stringent requirements? (So I’ve heard, I could be wrong.)

So while you are on a diet and working out, also please volunteer for your local Habitat for Humanity. You will be building houses for families who, as you know, desperately need to get out of the neighborhood. Strong, bright young men working with them is like gold.

And, not to proselytize for any one religion, but check out likely places of worship where they have a strong young adult and outreach programs you can make friends with and help.

So those are the three things I would do if I were a young white man starting out again. 🙂

• This reply was modified 10 years, 2 months ago by Inky.