Hey Sandy,

It’s perfectly okay with what you are going through right now. Most people in their 20s don’t know what their life is about. And although it appears to you that they are doing great, most of them don’t know what their purpose in life is.

There are a few things which you can sort out the mess you are going through.

1) List them out in bullet points on a piece of paper. It’s much clearer and less overwhelming this way. So for your example, you can do something like this:

– lack of funding for your major
– impulsive shopping problem
– not going to school and working at a serving job
– not saving enough
– fix up the old house
– haven’t finished your degree
– stuck at mother’s house
– boyfriend wants to move out with you next year
– not sure if you are passionate in your major
– can’t complete things
– problems with procrastination, time management, discipline, anxiety, and self sabotage.

2) Ask yourself what is the most important thing you want out of life right now. Money, studies, career, relationship, freedom? Is leaving your mother that important right now?
Choose one area which you are going to improve and focus on making it better.

I’m not asking you to give up your relationship, studies or job. But the key thing about completing stuff is focus.

If you have several things to do in a day for e.g. do groceries shopping, pay your bills, eat lunch, watch a movie, you can’t possibly do everything at the same time. You can only be at one place at a certain point in time. So my advice would be presence and focus on doing one thing at the time. And after you complete something, move on to the next. Take it slow.

No matter how successful people are, most people want to achieve everything fast. I shared problem as you. You can read more about it here: http://www.fearlesspassion.com/blog/three-beauties-overlook-want-achieve-dreams-fast/

3) Read more self-help books. It helps in the long run. The issues you have mentioned – procrastination, time management, discipline, anxiety, and self sabotage, are not issues at all. A little tweak to your perception and mindset. You will find that everything changes.

All the best 🙂
Yong Kang Chan (aka Nerdy Creator)
Author of Fearless Passion: Find the Courage to Do What You Love

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