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November 27, 2015 at 6:26 am #88404
Being sick of depression might be the first step of getting out of depression. I recently had depression too. And I’m so tired and sick of me crying uncontrollably and the depression kept coming back. I was so angry and let out all my anger. And I felt so much better and relieved.
Find an empty room and just shout and scream and punch. Just let yourself feel all the anger and emotions. Once it all out, you’ll feel so much better.
I’ve documented what I did in my blog posts. You can check them out. Hope that will help you.
http://www.nerdycreator.com/blog/feeling-angry/November 27, 2015 at 6:22 am #88403
Hey Doreen, I understand how you feel. I recently had depression too because I was jobless. I thought I was fine, just find another job. But in the night, I would cry uncontrollably. It’s pretty scary. I didn’t want to get up in the morning. All my passion is gone. I didn’t even have the motivation to find a job. The thing I need to do the most!
But lucky for me, I had been learning a lot about self improvement over the last six years after I had depression. I managed to overcome it and able to talk to my brother about it.
I documented what I do in my blog: http://www.nerdycreator.com/blog/feeling-depressed/
Hope it will help you too.
Nerdy CreatorOctober 2, 2014 at 9:19 am #65908October 2, 2014 at 8:58 am #65906
Hey lexy99, that’s great news! Good luck! 🙂October 1, 2014 at 7:28 am #65856
Hey lexy99 and the rest,
I’m just wondering why moving out is so important to you? Freedom? Independence?
I’m from Singapore and I left home to work as an animator in Malaysia. I move because there’s opportunity in Malaysia. I would rather stay with my family members though because I love them so much. Even though I get irritated by them sometimes. :p But that’s the beauty of family. It’s cool and fun to explore other cities. But I still prefer to stay with my parents. Maybe it’s an Asian thing. lol.
Lexy99: If you feel like you are going to regret not taking up the opportunity, go for it. Being fearless is not about having no fear. It means you go for it despite your fears. And don’t hesitate to move back if things doesn’t work out. People make mistakes all time. Making mistakes give you the experience to make better a decision the next time. I spent five years as an accountant before I realize that I should do something creative instead. It’s okay, just change and start over again.
Yong Kang Chan (aka Nerdy Creator)October 1, 2014 at 7:23 am #65854
It’s perfectly okay with what you are going through right now. Most people in their 20s don’t know what their life is about. And although it appears to you that they are doing great, most of them don’t know what their purpose in life is.
There are a few things which you can sort out the mess you are going through.
1) List them out in bullet points on a piece of paper. It’s much clearer and less overwhelming this way. So for your example, you can do something like this:
– lack of funding for your major
– impulsive shopping problem
– not going to school and working at a serving job
– not saving enough
– fix up the old house
– haven’t finished your degree
– stuck at mother’s house
– boyfriend wants to move out with you next year
– not sure if you are passionate in your major
– can’t complete things
– problems with procrastination, time management, discipline, anxiety, and self sabotage.
2) Ask yourself what is the most important thing you want out of life right now. Money, studies, career, relationship, freedom? Is leaving your mother that important right now?
Choose one area which you are going to improve and focus on making it better.
I’m not asking you to give up your relationship, studies or job. But the key thing about completing stuff is focus.
If you have several things to do in a day for e.g. do groceries shopping, pay your bills, eat lunch, watch a movie, you can’t possibly do everything at the same time. You can only be at one place at a certain point in time. So my advice would be presence and focus on doing one thing at the time. And after you complete something, move on to the next. Take it slow.
No matter how successful people are, most people want to achieve everything fast. I shared problem as you. You can read more about it here: http://www.fearlesspassion.com/blog/three-beauties-overlook-want-achieve-dreams-fast/
3) Read more self-help books. It helps in the long run. The issues you have mentioned – procrastination, time management, discipline, anxiety, and self sabotage, are not issues at all. A little tweak to your perception and mindset. You will find that everything changes.
All the best 🙂
Yong Kang Chan (aka Nerdy Creator)
Author of Fearless Passion: Find the Courage to Do What You Love
December 21, 2013 at 8:28 pm #47321
- This reply was modified 7 years, 8 months ago by tinybuddha.
I don’t believe that life is a trade off. If you search for people who has great work and family life out there, you definitely find some great examples. Good family life and good work life can co-exist!
I feel that it’s important to satisfy your own work life needs. Being happy at work will further enhance your relationship with your partner. Think about this, we spend a great deal of our time at our work, if we aren’t happy with it, won’t we need to spend time off work to recover from it? Won’t it take away the quality time which you can spend with your partner?
I suggest you really identify what you like and dislike about your current job and decide if it’s worth it for you to stay in your current job. If job environment is the main issue, there’s always other jobs out there with better working environment.
Hope this helps,
Nerdy Creator 🙂November 15, 2013 at 12:58 am #45349
I would like to ask if you will be happy if you become a manager?
Sometimes, we want things which we think will make us happy, but they don’t.
From what I’ve read from your post, I think it’s very difficult to get yourself motivated to do something when you are not passionate about it.
Plus, you say you are not the ambitious type. If you force yourself to get the manager position, the more you are going to resist it.
And that will lead to doing stuff that divert your attention like the ones you mention above and perhaps smoking.
What I suggest is to find something you love to do outside your work and start exploring.
Find things which you really enjoy doing and be happy in the moment.
You may find some ideas for a career switch and slowly change your career path.
Even if you don’t make a career switch, I think you will find that your life becomes more meaningful just by doing the things you love.
I said this because I’m a strong believer in passion. But do try it, I think it will change certain aspect of your life.
For the smoking issue, I think sharing it will be a good idea. Keeping secrets definitely creates more of the guilty feelings.
You can find some resource online not just to learn how to quit but also learn and make friends with those who have quit smoking.
I think I know someone who has a business that helps other quit smoking or something. If you need help me to contact him, let me know.
Usually when we continue to do things that we don’t feel good comes from beliefs on ourselves e.g. we think we are “not good enough”. Every time, we don’t feel good about ourselves, we automatically do our bad habit like smoking. So if I were you, I will find some resources to improve my self-esteem.
You can try Morty Lefkov’s website: http://www.mortylefkoe.com/#
It helps me to improve my self-esteem tremendously.
Hope what I share helps you! 🙂
Nerdy CreatorNovember 11, 2013 at 8:00 am #45116
I’m new here too!
I agree with Karin. Don’t let mistakes stop you. We are all here to learn and grow.
I used to be someone who is low is self-esteem, but it just get better every day.
Finding your purpose takes exploration. Just take one tiny step at a time. You will get more inspiration to act when you explore.
Don’t worry about defining your purpose immediately. It will get clearer every step you take.
All the best,
Nerdy Creator 🙂