B.B.

A few things came to heart as I read your words. The first is that you can’t help someone that isn’t prepared to be helped. Their hand has to be reaching out already, they have to be sick and bored of their swamp. Convincing her to reach out won’t help her long term, it has to blossom from within her.

When/if she does reach out, don’t do the work for her. Don’t go shopping for her, don’t do the research for her, don’t give solutions to her. Instead, offer to explore with her. Shopping together, perhaps. Not telling her “try going for a walk someday” or “you should do yoga”, and instead “let’s get outta here, go see a forest”. Etc. A cheerleader, not a savior. Willing/enthusiastic/gracious to walk alongside her, but not take steps for her. She perhaps needs those leg muscles to stretch and strengthen.

With warmth,
Matt