PS “I am kind of still hoping he would become the person I wanted/expected him to be.” It is really really important to know that you cannot put this kind of pressure on someone to become what YOU want or expect. He is who he is. Not that we cannot improve as individuals but if this is fundamentally who he is, he will not change. It is critical that you accept people for who they are, including this guys.

HE has to want to change for HIMSELF, not because you want him too.