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I had to respond to this post because I am in a very similar situation.
I am part towards getting my degree, but I feel so conflicted about it. I don’t like school, I feel miserable when I’m there, I dread it. What I truly want deep down inside is to be a homemaker and full-time mom, it’s what would make me most happy.
My family and in-laws do not approve, they want me to finish school and get a career; they tell me I’m “wasting myself” for wanting to be a housewife (this upsets me a lot- it’s such a insulting thing to say about all the housewives and homemakers out there!). My spouse supports and respects my choice, but family is very important to me and it tears me up inside to disappoint them and fight with them about this. On the other hand, school makes me miserable and I don’t want to go into some soul-crushing job that will just make me even more unhappy.
The main problem with me is money; getting my degree would pacify my family a little maybe (they’d still want me to get a career methinks) but tuition is just so expensive! I’m already way in debt, and every year I do the more in debt I become. Which means getting our own house and starting a family drifts further and further out of reach for us (my partner and I agreed that we don’t want to start a family till we have our own place and are financially stable).
I’m sorry that I don’t really have any advice for you, Alpal. I just wanted to reach out and say you’re not alone and I know how you feel right now.