First, I’d make sure you are in a good place to really listen to her. Something I did for a long time was to listen to people, but then I would take on the problems as my own. Be there for her, without judgement and understand that you cannot fix another person. Only they can take that step. The more you can reflect her words into something that she can relate to and understand, the more likely she will start to feel better and the more you will understand one another. First and foremost, make sure you are taking care of you. All the best, my friend. 🙂