Your situation seems a bit different to mine, though. You seem like you’re still mourning, whereas I just don’t give a damn.
I think that one cannot invest his emotional well-being into a thing or a person, different from himself. People should not obsess over people or objects, at least a little attachment is unavoidable for most of us, but a lot is something that we should be wary of. I doubt that a lot of people could live without attachment to the things that they love, but everyone could try to build the foundations of their lives around themselves and not said things that they love. No one but ourselves can be the center of our universe.
Don’t get me wrong, though, you can be sad, you don’t need to fight it. It’s just a matter of where the sadness is coming from – is it just an emotion that’s the direct resulf of losing someone that you love or is it the result of the ego telling you sob stories. Don’t victimise yourself, stuff like that happens. Let it go. Accept it and let it go. It’s not about looking on the bright side or lying to yourself, it sucks, believe me, I know. But events are not good or bad, we simply percieve them as such and as long as you internally create drama around the break up, you’re goind to be locked in your own prison of misery and self-pity.
Source: We broke up again half an year ago, but then got back together. The best thing that I did during the first break up is what I advised you to do. Hope it helps. Internet hugs to you, David. 🙂
Alas, my own advice can’t help me. As I said, I’ve been growing and learning, but currently it all means nothing. :\
Though I run this site, it is not mine. It's ours. It's not about me. It's about us. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. 