Bill,

The ONLY thing we can control is our attitude to life’s events. Everything else is out of our control and you’ll do yourself an injury trying to fiddle with that.
So, in it’s simplest form…if you DECIDED to be happy with everything that happens to you and around you, it would be impossible to be sad, anxious or depressed.That’s just logic.
Unfortunately, we are human beings and we aren’t strong enough to make that decision. But, the more we move towards that state, the less stress we bring upon ourselves.
It’s called unconditional self-acceptance and unconditional other acceptance…and it’s what I strive for…sometimes successfully.
Let’s look at your 3 points:

1. Well Being…or could I call it happiness? My understanding of happiness is that it is a state of being which occurs when you are working towards a goal…either your own, or someone else’s. So that’s what I do, set goals and work towards them. It’s not important to me whether I achieve them or not, as I am often side tracked or detoured onto other activities…but the setting of the goal sets the wheels of life in motion.
2. Meaning/Purpose. Certainly important. For me, our purpose is to continue to learn and to continue to teach. We do this by automatically interacting with other people. That’s our role and as long as we continue to do it…job’s done! I’m learning and developing by interacting with you and I hope my thoughts are, at least, activating some questions and learnings in your mind.
3. Love. A biggy. Yes, it’s certainly in our nature to seek love, however, that doesn’t mean we will all be successful with that goal. Once again, that’s life. But the thrill is in the trying…and we won’t die if we don’t attain it.

So, I say, stop trying to control external things and enjoy and accept them for what they are…learning and growing opportunities. Some will be yummy, some will be bitter…but we’re going to get them anyway.