Hi Alok,

I had to read your post a few times to get the jest of it. I’m fine with the first woman I liked not wanting to be with me. Yes, I did like her a lot, but what am I going to do if she doesn’t like me? You can’t force someone to like you if they don’t. I found that most women don’t want to be friends after a relationship doesn’t work. I actually never said I had a perfect relationship with her. I was hopefully of building a relationship with her though.

She didn’t want to be with me and we must have not been compatible enough because we aren’t in contact now. I don’t even think I would have wanted to be just friends with her, because it would have been frustrating being around someone you always want to be more with. She just had a lot of qualities that appeal to me in a woman, and I will be keeping them in mind, when I decide to pursue another relationship. I’m not looking for perfection, because I know that doesn’t exist, but I do want to find someone with qualities that appeal to me, and that I feel comfortable with.

I’ve learned something for any future relationships I will have. I’m not going to rush anything about them. I’m not going to worry if the other person is interested in me or not, and I am going to let it bring me down if it doesn’t work it.

About the woman I just told that I didn’t want to date. She messaged me again today and went off on me saying that I faked interest in her, and that I was chicken for not wanting to meet her again.

That’s a pile of bull. I was interested in her at first, and I wasn’t afraid of meeting her again. It’s funny because the first time we met, I was totally at ease because I wasn’t going to stress about it, and she was nervous. The only person I was lying to was myself because I still felt too much for the first woman I dated.
Listening to her tirades, over a guy she had started talking to about 3 weeks before, made me realize that I made a good choice about not dating her.

The only thing that I wish I would have done was say something sooner to her. I have never been put in this situation before, and I was trying to figure out the best way to approach it, without hurting anyone’s feelings.