I apologize for the double post, but I misunderstood Inky’s post and failed to realize that he was talking about a friendship.

Most of the things I said remain true for a friendship as well. After all it is more or less like a relationship with less intensity and connection, it is also based on expectations, respect and trust.

As I said, I’m not sure why you assumed she would go on and on about what you hid. Though, if she really did so and the discussion lead you nowhere, you could put sense into her by telling her to either accept you as you were or spend her time with somebody else. Can you be a friend with somebody that does not respect you? Can you be friend with somebody that you cannot respect? Wouldn’t you hate to assume you share values, and strengthen them through the friendship itself, just to find out later that they were not real? Is it better to to know the truth, be able to make choice based on it, but get stressed during the choice itself or to be ignorant, enjoy the present, yet risk to be disappointed and hurt later? We do not think alike on the matter, we also think differently depending on the context, but if someone has a preference why shouldn’t we respect it?