Hi Femalemt,

You have hit the nail on the head….the easy part is to want to review/change beliefs…the hard part is the implementation. Consider how long you have been living your life through your current “lens”!
For the moment, let’s go back to the beginning and look at what is involved in “changing beliefs”:

The belief change cycle as, described by Robert Dilts, goes something along these lines:
1) Being Open to Doubt – This is the most crucial part of any and all belief change. Sometimes the simple act of doubting an existing belief can lead to rapid belief change. This is when we start examining our existing beliefs and think “Maybe it’s not true,” “Maybe there are exceptions,” “Well, that’s not always true.”
2) Becoming Open to Believe – This is when we start asking “What if this were true?” “What would life be like if I believed this?”
3) Wanting to Believe – We want to believe something, but are aware it’s not part of our current belief system.
4.) Incorporation – This is when we begin to add the new belief to our existing belief system. Sometimes this can happen quite rapidly, however if the new belief is very “radical” compared to our established belief system, we may have to adjust or even “retire” old beliefs in order to accommodate the new belief, which happens in step 5.
5) Refiling of the old belief – Dilts describes a “Museum of Personal History” where we store old beliefs, like the belief in Santa Claus. A more advanced tactic to belief change involves envisioning current limiting beliefs the same way we look back on believing in Santa Claus.
6) Trust in the new belief. – You start gathering “proof” of the new belief

As you’ve found, the hardest step is incorporation…especially when your desired belief contradicts too much of your lens on life.
A way of getting around this is to build small beliefs, or small versions of our desired belief…and gradually increase it until we have achieved our desired goal.

I also believe that there is a need to go through the 6 stages. If you’ve missed a couple, then the whole process mightn’t “take”.

If you’re open to it, perhaps you’d like to share one of the beliefs you’re trying to change…and we could dissect it a bit.