Thanks again for responding. My thoughts are this;

Koala-I’m not sure forgiveness will happen, but I am not closed to the idea. I’ll explain below.
Inky-Yes, she will likely repeat these actions again and only invite more suffering into the world, but I would hope not. I’ve already warned a next likely ‘victim”. And I’ve completely removed her from my life.
Trump-You hit the nail on the head. I loved the woman I thought she was, not her true self. This in part because her true nature was not revealed to me by her own cunning behaviors. I suppose that we never really get to see the true reality of others unless they offer it to us, and even still we only see our perception of that reality. I can’t imagine having to live with her in my life as you do. I’ll offer my thoughts on healing below.
Vhanon-You are correct. It is grief and emptiness that has troubled my soul. There was a time when I would try to engage in things that nurtured me such as writing music or home projects, and this is when I simply fell apart. I was powerless and overcome by sadness and anger. That time is slowly fading away.
Kath-Takes one to know one 🙂 Huggs
Steve-My ability to understand has been clouded, but you are right. A frank look at the situation is required so I can move on.

What I’ve come to realize is that in an attempt to move ahead with life, I pushed myself into the process of forgiveness but I also suppressed ALL the memories of the relationship as best I could because it was too painful to think about it and I just wanted to move forward. I threw away all her possessions, gifts and letters. I deleted all files, pictures and emails. I deleted all memories so I could just move on. I didn’t want to re-live a painful chapter in my life. But in doing so, I suppressed my feelings of that time, both good and bad. This was my error. Trump, you spoke about loving a perception of somebody. This resonates so well with me. Looking back, I could not understand why I loved this person. This is because I tried to destroy all memory. During the past few days I’ve invited myself to recall everything, to re-live the experiences and emotions from a more objective point of view. I’m realizing this. Forgiveness is not the answer. To forgive is slightly arrogant. It implys that I am right and the other is wrong. How can I be right if I can only perceive part of reality? Not forgiveness. Love is the answer. For me, I just need to love myself and appreciate myself and each moment in this life more deeply. I need to look back an re-experience not only the painful memories, but the good moments and sit with them in with my being and find peace. It will all heal in time. Thanks to you all for your help. 🙂 I’m grateful.