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Janice
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Hey Dream, I used to feel like this when I was younger and was in a relationship, so I can definitely relate. I don’t think this is so much about your boyfriend being too good for you, but rather it’s about your deep-rooted sense of unworthiness and “not good enough”. You need to learn to love yourself and feel that you are a wonderful, worthy and lovable person. This can take a lot of time and work but you will get there if you work at it. I got there, so you can too :).

This is one part. The other part is your relationship and here you have to ask yourself (and your boyfriend) if the relationship can carry the weight of your insecurities and journey. Have you ever shared your concerns and feelings with your boyfriend? How does he think of it?
Inquire how much space your problem takes in the relationship and how much your relationhship is apart from that. They say you can’t love someone else if you don’t love yourself and I think there is a lot of truth to that. However, I also think that there is some space for a genuine, caring and meaningful, two-way relationship, even if one partner is struggling with self-love issues. But in that case you need to be very clear and open about it, both committed to working with it and carrying the weight of it and you need to be very aware of how it impacts the relationship.

I think you should speak with your boyfriend about the worries you have and the consequences you’re contemplating. Ask him how he feels about it and what he wants to do. Ask yourself what you are willing to do.

And don’t beat yourself up. Learning to love yourself is a journey that takes time. You are absolutely beautiful and derserving of love.