Hi Dream 1992,

Everybody feels intimidated by the greatness of a night sky. We feel like a tiny stone when we compare ourselves to such an huge landscape. But are we worth any less? The stars shine their way, we shine our way. And if you look a bit more, you can see the sky, like it was almost embracing you with a tender hug, and it says “welcome, you are a part of me, I would not be this without you”. Look at the night sky and breathe the air, it is yours and belongs to you.

Your boyfriend chose you to make your world together, you are an essential part of it, with everything you can give or cannot give. You are better than every girlfriend he ever had, because he chose you to be at his side now. After knowing them, he chose you among them. And if he is that great guy you say he is, unless you lied or hid something to him, isn’t it an honour to be chosen by him among many? Please, feel proud. If his friends and family respect him, their will also respect his choice and understand why he chose you.

It is fair for you to be with him, because he decided so. He has a valid reason to stay with you, even if you cannot see it. You’ve got some qualities, you are not aware of. The question is, did you decide to stay with him? Or would you like to be with someone who is not that great, so that some other qualities of yours (those you are aware of) can actually be more useful? So that people can acknowledge the qualities you’d like to be praised for? Can you guess what he likes about you, can you accept it?

No, it is not wrong to take your time to sort your thoughts out. However, I believe you shall let him know your concerns and how much time you are going to think away from him. My friendly advice is to try to understand things with him at your side. Like Janice said, talk with him, try to relax and not push yourself to try to be what you are not comfortable being, and please understand you are worthy: he chose you.

• This reply was modified 10 years ago by Vhanon.