Unfortunately, the reality is…as long as you believe you have been hard done by and aggrieved…you will be bothered by it.
So, the only way to change that “bothered” emotion is to change what you believe about the situation. That’s just logic and maths.
Having said that, I know it’s easier said than done. We can’t just turn the tap off.
The trick is to do it in steps. We’re not machines. Is there a different way you could look at the situation?
For example….” I know x has happened to me. I would prefer that it didn’t, however, the realities of life dictate that these disagreements do happen to some people. It just so happens that it’s my turn to cop it.”
Now you are saying that it’s not AWFUL or HORRIBLE that it’s happened to me. You’re accepting reality.
Once you get to that stage…I would be looking at all the lessons you gained from having this episode. Are you a bit wiser? Have you had to stretch your thinking paths? Have you learnt any new life coping techniques? Would you approach a tenancy arrangement differently next time?
Now, just imagine that absolutely nothing bothered you. You would be always happy and never upset. That’s the goal we should be aiming for. Yes, you may laugh, no one will ever reach that place…but the closer we get…the less tiresome the world becomes.