Stevie Wonder…

It sounds like you’ve had your fair share of head-fuckery courtesy of the species of women.
Darn those creatures.
I’m sorry to hear that, and about your wife cheating on you. It happens to a lot of us.
But it must have been terrible, so you deserve credit for making it through.
*Pat on the back*

Remember though, not all women are the same. Just like not all guys are disloyal pricks on steroids (as many women complain) .
You need to remember how a dating site works.
It’s much like a bar.
There are ALWAYS more men.
And some girls love the attention. They need it to fill the emptiness inside their soul.

I had similar problems for a long time on a dating site.
I went on a lot of dates last year. And a few this year.
Some girls I messaged blanked me too.
I’d say I’m also alright looking.
Maybe an 8 out of 10.

Things did work out for me, but I had to be patient and was very close to giving up.
I’ve been with my girlfriend, Ellen, for 9 months now and it’s bizarre to think I didn’t know her a year ago.
She’s perfect for me and we have a lot in common.

A lot of girls are vain. I mean, everyone is shallow to a degree. I’m sure you’re not messaging a certain class of girl.
If I ever got messaged first, it was from … well, dogs, frankly. (I sound like a douche for saying ‘dogs’, but they weren’t easy on the eye… it fact, my eyes hurt afterwards). The hot girls get a lot of messages though. Friends I hung out with at work at the time – girls – would sometimes get 50 messages a day. Albeit, that was when they were new to the site (Plenty of Fish). But that’s madness. They probably have the option to pick and choose and some will choose abs over personality. And then complain in 3 months when their man cheats on them in a club.

To cut this short, you win some and lose some.
You have to be prepared to accept being messed around.
But, keep the faith and realise that every time something doesn’t work out, you’re closer to the right lady.
And when someone responds to a compliment with ‘That’s what lots of guys tell me’, cut them loose and move on.
Nobody got time for that!

Hope this helps bud.