Hi Dre,

Do you have a child now? Make sure you are not using this man as a distraction. In fact, even if you were single, I would discourage you to get in a relationship when your child is not even in school.

Also, don’t feel guilty for seeing other people while he was deployed. The “Dear John” letter is clichéd for a reason. Expecting a young single person to wait months or years on end for a return is a little over the top.

What I would do is keep him a friend on social media, but make no moves to contact him initially. Concentrate on your child, who I noticed you only mentioned in passing. i.e. Is there a child? Miscarriage? How old is s/he?

Keep Busy,

Inky