DavidGoliath: Oh yes, his parents are strict and affect him in, as he expresses it, good and not-that-good ways. And it might very well be that they would benefit from having a deeper mindset! But,the problem from my angle is that their rejection of me affect me in a destructive way, and I need to get away from that. I need a positive way of looking at this situation, because at the moment I’m feeling an anger of how unfair this is, that they can’t embrace me and that there seems to be nothing I can do about it. It’s frustrating.

Inky: An interesting twist, and a challenging one too! I love that. Just the thought of the possibility to “accidentally” bump into those parents is thrilling, and makes my fantasy strive away about how this could be arranged, what would happen, what I would say, how I could turn their picture of me (if they remember me, but I would actually think they do..) And no matter if this actually would happen or not, it is a way to work the subject out mentally, creating a constructive, “this-will-have-a-positive-outcome”-image that is so much nicer to have in mind than the passive-destructive “there-is-nothing-to-do-about-it”. Thank you!

Another way I’ve started to treat this, is through the acceptance that some people are more difficult to reach but it doesn’t matter what happened in the past and upon what events people build their image of you. The only thing that matters is how you respond to the people around you right now, in the present. I’ve started to try to love everyone and everything (competors at work, the air I breathe, trees, butterflies, strangers, tricky relatives, screaming annoying babies and so on…) and I’ve realized that all this loving makes it more difficult to make space for negative feelings. Problems are still there, but they don’t take my energy in the same way as before.

What would you do if you felt resistance against you in relationships, in families, with friends or lovers, or in formal occations?